After 5 years of being her caregiver, i possibly couldn’t bear the psychological or financial expenses alone any further.

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Dear Therapist,

I happened to be hitched to my spouse for three decades. In 2012 she ended up being clinically determined to have Huntington’s illness. It’s a hereditary deadly brain condition without any remedy or remedies. It gradually took her away mentally and actually. She had been 47 at that time.

For 5 years I happened to be her caregiver that is sole her, dressing her, feeding her, etc. In 2017, i possibly could carry on not any longer and had to position her in a care facility that is long-term. I became burnt down. Right after, we filed for breakup as the price of her care was bankrupting me personally. If she had been solitary her care had been covered. I’d no option.

Since then We have met another woman with who i will be now in a serious relationship.

I will be 55 years of age. My ex is certainly not with the capacity of understanding cognitively, therefore she doesn’t understand. My loved ones states they support me personally. My family that is ex’s does. We felt We necessary to move ahead in life, but We still go to my ex daily and guarantee her requirements are met. (Pokračování textu…)